Ever dealt with a bucking horse? What a pain in the ass can they be, literally. And there is nothing worse than a bucking horse messing up your lovely ride. He is so wrong and bad for bucking while he has you on his back. Bad horse! Or is he?
When a horse does something out of place, we tend to make it wrong. He doesn’t behave exactly as we ask him to and therefore it is wrong. Do you know what it wrong? The point where you decide that it is the wrong thing for him to do. What if instead, you would ask a question: What is right about this that I am not getting?
It is no secret that humans and horses speak two completely different languages. Us humans tend to speak with our words, while a horse uses energy to speak. Still, we are so fond of working together as a team. To get to be that better team we would have to dive a little bit more into the words that our horses are actually telling us. How does it get better than that?
What is really going one when you deal with a bucking horse? You are afraid to fall off! So, therefore, we make the bucking a wrongness. While there is actually nothing more to it than miscommunication between horse and human. Are you willing to look at the bucking of your horses from another perspective? Here we go!
- First of all, I would like to point out that it is always important to check that your horse is not in pain. So he should have a decent fitting saddle that doesn’t harm his back and he should be checked by a vet for any injuries on his back. When that is all done, you can continue.
- Now take a little distance from your horse and the situation. Ask a question: “What is actually right about this that I am not getting?” By asking this question you go out of the wrongness of your situation. It just gets to be an interesting point of view.
- Be open to receiving your answer in all kinds of ways. What is it that your horse is trying to tell you? It can be all sorts of things. He might want to change something in his daily habits or maybe is he being a mirror to you for a problem that is actually yours. Always try to keep an open mind and stay out of the wrongness.
Other questions you can ask:
- Is my horse showing me something about my own body?
- Is the problem actually the horse?
- Is there something here for me to change?
- What is possible here that I haven’t seen yet?
My own horse only started to change when I was willing to work on my own mindset and my own body. Maybe this might be the case for you. This book, Right Body for you can be such a contribution to you and also to your horse. Also, read Light or heavy.